Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.
How to control your emotions.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.
How to control your emotions.
This week I closed the door on my mum’s apartment for the last time.
Nearly 2 years ago my mum died and I took on the responsibility as Executor to sell her apartment.
I am sure you remember how the world changed in March 2020 and we went into a complete lockdown due to Covid-19 and we were all worried about the impact this infectious disease would have on ourselves but also the elderly and vulnerable.
They elderly were told to shield and so selling an assisted living apartment in a block for the over 70s was not going to happen!
At the time I fully accepted this. But the months dragged on and each month the service charge continued to be paid out.
After vaccinations, I felt more hopeful but no sale.
One year on and I was ready to move on emotionally but the sale continued to be a thorn in my side.
What could I do? Very little, I needed patience!
I could only influence the price but the price was not the problem; it was the location, the environment and the concerns of the families of the elderly not even the elderly themselves.
Then, in May the sale came through…at last! But it was not simple; the gentlemen was not quite old enough and as we jumped through the hoops the chain broke lower down.
If you have been involved in buying or selling a house you will completely understand the challenges and the emotional toll it takes.
It was then that I reflected on my Circle of Concern:
I asked myself:-
1. Is this within my direct control? The answer was No!
2. Is this due to someone else's actions that I can influence? The answer was No!
3. Is this outside of my control? The answer was YES!
Going through this thought process and recognising that it was outside of my control enabled me to take a step back from the problem and decide that what I can control, is my emotional state.
I recognised that Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it and I was definitely allowing my reactions to get the better of me.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it!
My frustration, anger, annoyance, anxiety was not going to change the situation and therefore it was important that I took action to improve my emotional state.
For me, this means playing a game of golf or some other exercise. it doesn’t have to be active for you, it can be something creative, you can meditate or play with your children. When you focus on what you enjoy and what you can control it is much easier to accept the situation of what you cannot control.
Here we are in January 2022 and the sale has finally gone through this week and as I closed the door for the last time I decided that the perfect celebration of this achievement and of my mum’s life is with a glass of …champagne of course!
If you would like to learn more about managing your emotional state, then NLP can help. If you would like to know more, contact me now to find out more.
I help you gain CLARITY on what’s important, build CAPABILITY to overcome the challenges on the way and
increase CONFIDENCE to take the steps to just do it!
I’m Tracy and I’m more than just a coach, I’m Your Catalyst for Change!
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